Sex For One: The Joy of Selfloving And Masturbation
Move past the somewhat cheesy title and step into a world where every intimate detail about pleasuring yourself is (pardon the pun) at your fingertips. Betty Dodson’s unique mixture of candid sexual advice, her uncanny ability to make the reader feel comfortable with her body and step-by-step guides to finding your g-spot, your c-spot (and everything in between) makes Sex For One a must-have on your bedside table.
Argues that masturbation is a legitimate expression of self love, discusses shared masturbation and how it can enhance sex with a partner, and explains how men and women can become more in tune with their bodies.
Although I didn't wholly go along with all the ideas and techniques outlined in the book (for example discussing the sexual virtues of courgettes with complete strangers in supermarkets!), I found the book to be very positive. Having read the book I feel liberated and that my partner and I have definitely gained from the experience!!
I expected a "how-to" style book, explaining techniques and tricks for getting yourself off. You can get that out of it, but there's more to this book. With new understandings about sexuality and about yourself, you may have more fun with a partner and alone. As the author writes a lot about her personal experience, it is geared more towards women, but I'd recommend this book to men also.
I know this sounds very corny, but Betty's book was truly a life-changing experience for me. A woman at the age of 48, I had never experienced orgasm and was on a downward track sexually in my marriage. I devoured Betty's book, appreciating her complete candor and honesty about sex. I finally realized that sexual satisfaction and ecstacy are everyone's birthright, including me. A year after reading Self-Loving, I have lost 20 pounds, am feeling like a teenager with my husband, and can finally say "I love myself!" Thank you, Betty.
Dodson's book stands out in a field clogged with sex manuals which overstress partnered sex. It is difficult to be a good lover to a partner without an intimate understanding of one's own desires, likes, dislikes, gray areas, fantasies, and physiologies. As a sex educator, I highly recommend this text.